Friday, June 8, 2012

Lucky Number 3


Well it will be another month that we will have to wait. Round three of Clomid starts tomorrow. Maybe this will be the month, maybe it won’t. As always the realization that it didn’t work was heart breaking, but better than last month and many more before it. The day itself was hard but I brushed it off as much as I could. At this point what other choice do I have? I’m tired of sorrowing in my self pity. It is not me. I’m usually such an outgoing, happy go lucky, laid back person. I don’t let a lot of stuff get to me. On the outside I still try to appear this way, overall I think it’s working and some days I really do feel like that. There have been a lot more days lately that I have felt like someone else entirely. I feel so gloomy and sorrowful.  I get a lot more irritated with stupid people especially ones that have children and don’t appreciate how special that is. Things I used to just laugh at now make me so mad. The worst is how much my mood changes. Literally when I started writing this post I was fine and generally pretty happy but now as I continue to write I am fighting off tears. What is happening to me? I feel like I am sacrificing myself for our dream of having a baby, a dream that could never be a reality. At this point I’m not ready to give up yet. I know it seems silly to even have this thought cross my mind but being a prisoner of my own emotions is exhausting. I hate feeling this way. I just hold on to the hope that all this sacrifice will pay off and every second will be worth it when I’m holding our baby in my arms. What if it never happens will it all be worth it then? I’m not entirely sure I can convince myself it will be.

Sometimes I look at my life and wonder how I got here. This is not at all how I pictured my life would go. It’s crazy how much one decision big or small can have so much effect on the future. Sometimes those moments matter and change everything and sometimes they don’t. You simply never know.  Almost six years ago one small decision to go to Applebee’s with a certain friend changed my life forever. Even then someone else had decided to meet a blind date there that very night as well. That someone else I would later realize was the love of my life, which I had actually met and had come to my apartment 3 years before that. Had I not been with that certain friend or decided to eat somewhere else my life could be amazingly different right now. Maybe the universe would have in some way brought us together again and maybe not. I like to think that it would have. I’m glad we had been given another chance to find and realize how much we were meant to be together.  My life is so blessed because of him. It is only because of him and his love that I am willing and able to make it through all of this. I love and respect him more than I ever knew was possible.  I know it’s silly and ridiculous and he has never even slightly made me feel this way, but I just hope he will never regret having to go through all of this with me.  What if I can never have children? What if we can never come up with the money to adopt? What if because of me we are never parents? Will he still feel the same way about me? I wish more than anything that I could just simply make the decision to have this happen. I guess sometimes it’s more than just a decision you make…

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